What Does
“Neuroaffirmative” Actually Mean?
Too often, families are caught between two unhelpful extremes:
The deficit model, which pathologises difference and frames the child as broken.
The “superpower” narrative, which glosses over real struggles and undermines support.
Neither approach helps when your child is struggling to access education.
Beyond labels
Neuroaffirmative practice recognises autism, ADHD, dyslexia, PDA, and other forms of neurodivergence as natural variations in the human brain.
It’s about:
Accuracy over sentiment – describing what’s really happening, without deficit labels or empty positivity.
Systems change, not child-blame – asking what needs to shift around the child so they can thrive.
Dignity and self-determination – respecting identity, voice, and the right not to mask.
In Practice
This lens runs through everything I do:
EHCPs – I describe needs with accuracy and dignity, linking provision to law and evidence.
Attendance – I never call it “refusal.” I frame it as EBSA, burnout, or trauma.
Behaviour – I recognise communication of distress and environmental mismatch, not “challenging behaviour.”
Advocacy – I equip parents with language that reframes their child as capable when supported, not as a problem.
How Language Transforms SEND Outcomes
In SEND, words determine provision. The language in EHCPs, needs assessments, and tribunal documents directly impacts what support your child receives.
When documentation describes "school refusal," services respond with attendance orders and fines.
When the same situation is described as "emotionally-based school non-attendance due to unmet sensory needs," services respond with environmental assessments and support packages.
Same child | Same situation | Different language | Completely different outcomes.
Words don’t just describe - they decide provision. A deficit-heavy EHCP risks years of unmet needs. A neuroaffirmative, lawful EHCP makes provision clearer, stronger, and harder for the local authority to dismiss.
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Common Questions & Concerns
Q:"Won't this make it harder to get support if we don't emphasise struggling?"
A: The opposite. Clear descriptions of environmental needs are more compelling than vague deficit labels. Settings/services know exactly what to provide.
Q: "What if my child really does have significant challenges?"
A: Neuroaffirmative practice never minimises difficulties. It describes them accurately in terms of support needs and environmental barriers - which actually makes securing provision easier.
Q: "Is this just political correctness?"
A: This is about precision. Neuroaffirmative language is more specific and actionable than traditional deficit descriptions. Better language leads to better outcomes.
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